Lorena Colarusso Registered Psychotherapist
What does it mean to trust? To trust is a verb. It is something that we do and have done to us. Trust is a result of actions, behaviours, beliefs, feelings sustained over time. It has many colours. We can trust others in some dimensions and not trust in others. The colours of trust can flow and change over time. Trust remains the foundation of love and bonding in nourishing relationships.
In many of our relationships, primary trust and loyalties lie with others, not us. We are not, in reality, the primary trust bond. The important thing is to be aware of where you stand and if the type of bond you want is possible. Ask, what colour of trust is authentic in this relationship? A primal trust imprinted in the red root chakra is a complex trust bond, both psychological and biological. It contains our earliest imprints and memories about safety, trust and bonding. Primal Trust is one of our most powerful trust bonds in whatever way it developed. Often, this is the root of imbalance with mistrust and blind trust. It is the source of our essential style of bonding and capacity for trust.
The gift of trust is that it can be learned and developed. Even with a betrayal of trust, it is possible to rebuild over time. With each relationship, we learn about our capacity for trust and when we are in a blind trust or in fear of trust. The mystery of trust is that we can only trust others and the world as much we trust ourselves.
There are levels of trust, colours of trust. What is important is our clarity and shedding light on our distortions, denials, projections and idealisations when making decisions about trust. This lack of clarity can work both ways. Being aware allows us to become conscious of our patterns and wounds that distort trust. We can connect in a blind trust, denying the behaviours and feelings that inform us about a true lack of safety to trust. Just the opposite, at times, trust is merited and proven over time, yet we can be unable to perceive this.
The Colours of Trust are rainbow colours. There is the orange sacral chakra flow of intimate trust. When it is balanced in its giving and receiving building, it builds interpersonal effectiveness. There is the solar golden glow of self-trust which builds self-esteem or ego-strength empowering us with confidence and mental health.
For some, trust emanates in a heart based green flame of love, personal love and holds a balanced emission of self-love and love for others. Any imbalance in this flow inward or outward can block our ability to trust.
A betrayal of trust can be painful, and we can slip into mistrust of ourselves, our perceptions and judgement. Through self-compassion, trust can become a map to authentic personal growth and interpersonal effectiveness in relationships.
Through the psycho-emotional and spiritual development with these beginning colours of trust, we can move into the blue, indigo and violet shades. These shades connect to the throat chakra blue flow of authentic words and expression building integrity and congruence. Congruence results from an alignment between or outer expression and our inner beliefs, values and selves. This third indigo eye ability to see with insight and without judgement is the basis of clarity when making decisions about what is trustworthy and what is not.
Finally, infused into all the colours of trust is the violent and white light of a higher vision and interconnection. Bringing compassion into our decisions and balancing it with our reality-based perceptions.
We are all unique in our capacity to flow in trust with all these colours. For most of us in our human journey, we have natural imbalances in the flow. What is most important is that we have awareness. This awareness develops stronger as we evolve our sense of Self.
Transpersonal Psychotherapy is a pathway of balancing and clearing blocks to trust in your personal journey or your intimate relationships with family or others. It can build inner resources to make a decision from a compassionate and discerning trust. It can build a stronger sense of Self which develops from self-awareness and self-trust. If you would like to explore this more feel free to check my website www.lorenacolarusso.com on the types of services that are available. Or simply contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I am passionate about the soul inspired lives that authentic trust and clarity can create.