Shamanic Ancestral or Systemic Family Constellations Sessions

Individual Systemic Family Constellations or Shamanic Ancestral Constellations sessions are available at a special rate of $75.00/1 hour session for the month of December.  Formats include Skype, In Person or Telephone sessions. The offer applies to both systemic psychotherapy and shamanic coaching approaches. We will determine which approach is best suited for you.  This is an opportunity for those who want to explore how their family system or ancestral soul may be affecting choices, patterns and possible obstacles in their lives.  The focus is opening up our capacity to access the flow of life force energy and manifest from our authentic self. ~Lorena

Family Constellations can be facilitated from a therapeutic systemic approach by a Registered Psychotherapist or as Shamanic Ancestral Soul approach by and Energy Medicine Facilitator or Practitioner.

Family Constellations session formats can include:

  • personal sessions for individuals or dyads between parent and child or siblings.  The entire family can also be facilitated as group focused on a particular obstacle or intention.
  • group sessions which are facilitated for participants that are not related necessarily
  • altar constellations sessions where items are selected to represent an idividual’s family system and soul constellation.

Family Constellations Assessment

The following assessment can provide a guideline to possible family systems issues that can be expanded in awareness and soulful understanding through this highly experiential connection with family energetics, systems and soul.

Family Constellations Theory holds that traumas such as the items listed below affect the family soul just as traumas affect the individual.  Specifically, the belief is that unprocessed trauma is held within the family soul system.   Michael Reddy, Ph.D., author of Health, Happiness and Family Constellations,  presents accumulating evidence from the fields of social neurobiology, epigenetics and brain research that ancestral experiences could pass via genetic inheritance to descendents.

There are many approaches to Family Constellations, however all are rooted in a mind, body and spirit approach to reconnecting with our authentic selves, health and vitality in relationships and life.

Shamanic Family Soul Circles

The Family Soul Circle is not therapy, the focus is ancestral soulwork. While exploring our personal story and provides insight and shifts of perception in psychotherapy, it is not explored or relevant to ancestral soulwork.

Individual or Dyad or Family Sessions include an Assessment

Try this Typical Family Constellations Assessment

  • •Did anyone die young?
  • •Did anyone leave the family?
  • •Was anyone abandoned, excluded, dishonoured from the family?
  • •Were there any adopted children or people who gave their child for adoption?
  • •Have you had a miscarriage or abortion or has one of your children died?
  • •Has anyone had a baby outside of his or her marriage or with a previous partner?
  • • Did anyone have a difficult birth (or caesarean)?
  • • Was anyone in a fatal accident or did anyone have a serious illness that could have taken his or her life?
  • • Did anyone have a traumatic experience in childhood?
  • • Have your parents ever told you whether they had any children that died?
  • Have they ever told you if they lost a child?
  • • Did anyone die giving birth?
  • • Did anyone in your family kill someone or did anyone have someone killed?
  • • Was anyone in your family murdered?
  • • Did anyone commit suicide?
  • • Did anyone give birth to a stillborn child?
  • • Did anyone participate in war?
  • • Did anyone take advantage of other people and caused them to suffer a
  • loss (land, money, life, etc.
  • • Was anyone institutionalized? (Jail, mental hospital…)
  • • Was anyone mistakenly accused of something and had to pay for it
  • • Was anyone physically or mentally challenged?
  • • Did you, your partner or your parents have a previous relationship that did not end well?
  • • Were you separated at an early age (from 0 – 3 years old) from your mother for a week or more (vacation, illness, incubator etc.
  • • Were your parents separated at an early age (from 0 – 3 years old) from
  • your mother for a week or more (vacation, illness, incubator etc.)
  • • Did anyone go missing in your family?
  • • Did anyone become a nun/priest?
  • • Did anyone lose his or her fortune?
  • • Did anyone remain single?
  • • Did anyone live an “alternative” or “different” life, for which they were criticised?
  • • Was there a conflict over an inheritance?

Contact Lorena to find out more about Family Constellations approaches to determine the best suited approach for your needs and objectives.   Explore through a 30 minute free discovery session, how Systemic Family Constellations or Shamanic Soul Constellations can be incorporated your healing journey.

Inner Balance Mastery

Inner Balance Mastery Tools

Balancing the Masculine and Feminine: Anima and Animus

By Lorena Colarusso Registered Psychotherapist

The masculine is sovereignty, the crown upon your soul. Femininity is humility and unconditional love, the heart within the breast of your soul and together they make the whole soul essence.” St. Germain, Twin Souls and Soulmates

We all possess the polarities of masculine and feminine essence within us. Integrating our inner masculine and feminine selves are the foundation of our wholeness. Rooted in Jungian psychology, this concept of the inner masculine and feminine is described as the “anima and animus”. It describes the male as having an inherent inner feminine and the female, an inner masculine.

Another description for these forces of nature is Yang and Yin. Yang energy being masculine is often described as light, the sun, fire, directed, focused, logical, protective and action-oriented. The Yin, which is the feminine, encompasses descriptors such as the moon, intuitive, receptive, vague, diffuse, emotional, dark.

Psychologically, men are generally described as predominate yang with aspects of yin energy while women are mostly considered as possessing more yin energy with aspects of yang. Each person contains the inner seeds of potential for wholeness and integration of both yin and yang.

The individual opportunities for inner self-integration of these opposites can present itself in men as they expand and embrace their emotions, their vulnerability and their capacity for connection. For women, the integration focuses on their capability for decisiveness, being action oriented, having inner strength, being independent and displaying personal power.

Integrating our Inner Masculine or Feminine is a very important pathway to accessing our full potential. Too much or too little of either can block our ability to manifest, achieve in the world and experience emotional balance.

Try this Exercise:

Take some time to review the list below and follow the instructions to uncover your unique Masculine/Feminine balance:

What is the current balance of the masculine and feminine energies in your life and what needs further development?   Which of these aspects of the Masculine or Feminine are polarized in you?

Too strong, too weak? Which are disowned or denied?

Masculine Feminine
Aggressive Passive
Independent Interdependent
Rational Emotional
Objective Subjective
Dominant Submissive
Competitive Cooperative
Logical Intuitive
Adventurous Cautious
Decisive Ambivalent
Ambitious Security Oriented
Worldly Domestic
Leader Follower
Assertive Tactful
Analytical Integrative
Strong Tender
Sexual Sensual
Philosophical Practical
Thinking Feeling
Good in Math Good in the Arts
Good in Science Good in Literature
Self-reliant Consults others
Individualistic Interpersonal
Goal oriented Process oriented
Exclusive Inclusive
Instrumental Expressive
Disciplinarian Nurturing
Pleases self Pleases others
Takes initiative Receptive
Likes time alone Likes time with others
Sees parts Sees whole
 Rebellious Conformist
Theological Religious
Separative Affliative

Balancing Brain Hemispheres:

To help you more clearly understand the masculine and feminine within you, consider that your brain is designed to accommodate these polarities. The functions of the left and right hemispheres of your brain correlate to the masculine and feminine respectively.

The left brain output is more closely affiliated with the masculine qualities of logic, being detailed oriented, being more concerned with factual data and having the capacity for words and language, math and science. It operates in the present and past. It comprehends, knows, acknowledges, orders and can perceive patterns. It names objects, is reality-based, practical, focuses on safety and has the proclivity to be strategic.

The right brain function is oriented to imagination, creativity, symbols and images. It uses feeling and is oriented to the present and future. It believes, appreciates, knows object functions, understands meaning, is philosophical and spiritual, is fantasy based, impetuous, explores present possibilities and takes risks.

Neuroplasticity is the Gift that allows us to integrate our Feminine and Masculine qualities.

From the field of neuroscience, writers such as Norman Doidge, M.D., explain the revolutionary phenomenon of neuroplasticity. The brain’s capacity for regeneration, transformation, performance and healing. The holistic techniques include a brain, mind, body and energetic approach. The brain is impacted by forms of energy, light, sound, vibration and movement that have been described as capable of awakening the plasticity of the brain’s own transformative capacity.

In the above exercise, how well-balanced between the Anima and Animus did you find yourself to be?

Is there some integration or balancing you would like to explore?

Alchemy Pathways and Lorena Colarusso offer a host of options to help you achieve your desired integration of your feminine/masculine energies. Lorena is available to support you to balance your life in order to honour both the left and right brain activities and to assist you in exploring a full reconnection to Source and to your Soul.

The pathways to integration and wholeness include:

  • Inner Selves Therapy (Voice Dialogue) is a pathway to embrace, integrate and bring choice and balance to the Inner Masculine and Inner Feminine parts of us.
  • Axiatonal Alignment is a holistic therapy described as balancing the left and right brains, integrating the masculine and feminine. It also is described as an energetic re-alignment to soul or source energy.
  • Shamanic Reiki Soul Retrieval spiritual journey based therapy that expands awareness and connects to the inner masculine and feminine. Retrieval and healing of psyche and soul fragments can be facilitated.
  • Emotional Clearing Sun/Moon Balancing Facilitation. Read more…
  • Belvaspata Healing of the Heart, Spiritual Journeys Integration and Balancing of Heart Energies, Enlightened Consciousness and Physical Being.
  • Alchemy Fragrance, Spiritual Journeys Egyptian Oil Balancing the 12 Meridians, Emotions and Inner Selves
  • Couples Coaching can provide an opportunity to explore and balance polarizations of the masculine and feminine within the actual relationship itself.

Contact Lorena for more information on these holistic and therapy services or to book a session.


The Brain’s Way of Healing, Norman Doidge, M.D.

He: Understanding Masculine Psychology, Robert A. Johnson

She: Understanding Feminine Psychology, Robert A. Johnson

We: Understanding the Psychology of Romantic Love, Robert A. Johnson

The Quest for Maleness, Theun Mares

Unveil the Mysteries of the Female, Theun Mares

Developing a Secure Attachment Style

Have you ever felt that you do not possess the adequate skills or resources to deal with stressors in your life, such as a job loss, relationship breakdown or family conflict? You may have compared your ability to cope with that of others, felt that you came up short and wondered why. Your ability to deal with stressful situations as an adult could be related to the attachment style you developed in your childhood.

What are attachment styles?

Attachment styles help us understand and predict reactions from other people and from our environment. The way a parent responds to their child’s needs throughout infancy, childhood and adolescence help to shape their attachment style.

The reactions we get from the people in our environment are ingrained in our brains and emotional systems by the time we reach adulthood.

Renowned attachment theorist, John Bowlby, defines attachment as a “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings”. Bowlby identified four characteristics of attachment:

  • Proximity maintenance – we want to be near the people we are attached to
  • Safe haven – our attachment figure is who we return to when we are afraid or threatened
  • Secure base – we may explore our environment comfortably knowing our attachment figure is a secure base to return to
  • Separation distress – we experience anxiety if separated from our attachment figure


Attachment Styles

In the 1970s, psychologist Mary Ainsworth defined three major attachment styles: Secure, Ambivalent and Avoidant. Later, researchers Main and Solomon categorized a fourth attachment style: Disorganized. Ambivalent, Avoidant and Disorganized attachments are considered insecure attachments. 


Secure attachment

According to Dr Hal Shorey, Ph.D, “about 55% of people emerge from childhood with secure attachment styles”.

Secure attachments develop when parents are consistently available and responsive to a child’s needs. Responsive parents are often very in tune with their child’s emotional needs and cues. By responding appropriately to these cues, the child learns their emotions are worthy of recognition.

Parents that help their children to develop secure attachments also provide non-verbal cues to help their children process and regulate their emotions, while providing compassion and instilling resilience. Responsive parents play a key role in teaching their children to tolerate and manage negative emotions like pain, loneliness, aggression and frustration.

Responsive parents help their children to become empathetic adults by correctly identifying and reacting to their children’s emotions.

The culmination of this parenting style generally results in children who develop the confidence to act independently, as they can identify and regulate their emotions, can tolerate negative emotions and are equipped with strategies to move past obstacles.

Common personality traits of people with secure attachments:

  • High self-esteem
  • Independent
  • Resilient
  • Good emotional regulation and management
  • Long-term relationships with friends
  • Good relationships with parents and other authority figures
  • Trusting
  • Empathetic, compassionate


Ambivalent attachment

Parents who respond inconsistently to their child’s needs tend to create an anxious attachment style, where the child is less inclined to explore their environment and may cry more often. Ambivalently attached children tend to experience considerable distress when separated from their parents, but don’t find comfort in their return either. Parents of ambivalently attached children can confuse their children with their responses: being sometimes receptive and nurturing, and other times overbearing and insensitive.

Common personality traits of people with ambivalent attachments:

  • Suspicious of strangers, not trusting
  • Clingy, needy
  • Overdependent
  • Unwilling to form close relationships
  • Cold, distant
  • Frequently end relationships
  • Underdeveloped pain coping skills


Avoidant attachment

Children may develop an avoidant attachment style when their parent consistently ignores or rejects their needs. In these cases, the parent is not attuned to the child’s emotional responses. Children with avoidant attachments will try to evade attempts to make physical contact and may avoid parents or caregivers overall.

Common personality traits of people with avoidant attachments:

  • Self-contained – have learned to rely on themselves from a young age
  • Have difficulty with intimacy
  • Superficial relationships – do not emotionally invest
  • May engage in casual sex regularly
  • Lack empathy
  • Unable to identify what others are feeling
  • Unable to summon a correct emotional response to others


Disorganized attachment

When a child displays a lack of clear attachment behaviour, they may be categorized as having a disorganized attachment. Often these children will display a mix of avoidant and resistant behaviours and may be apprehensive in the presence of their parent or another authority figure.

Inconsistent parental responses may contribute to this attachment style: commonly this may be a mix of parental responses that include fear and reassurance. This attachment style may also be observed in children who have been abused, as the person who is meant to be their “safe haven” is also the perpetrator of terrifying behaviour.

Attachment styles: implications for adult personality and relationships

Although our development throughout our childhood plays a key role in determining our personality traits and reactions to our environment as adults, we are not doomed to go through life with a lack of coping skills or stuck in personality patterns that do not serve us. It is possible to build our interpersonal skills and resilience.

What attachment style do you most identify with? What skills would you like to work on building so they serve you better as an adult?

In a future article, we will discuss how attachment styles affect our relationships and personality in adulthood. We’ll also outline some methods that can help us make changes to our attachment style.


The Keys to Rewarding Relationships:

What is Your Attachment Style?:

Traits of Secure Attachment:

Attachment Theory – Styles and Characteristics:

Anxiety can both Protect and Overwhelm


Your heart is racing, chest is tightening and you have feelings of fear, apprehension or panic. Many of us will recognize these symptoms and immediately think of times when we’ve felt them. These symptoms are part of our bodies’ normal reaction to situations we perceive as dangerous, unsafe or stressful (known as the fight or flight response), but today we can label the combination of these symptoms in daily life as anxiety.

All of us experience anxiety at some point in our lives, usually in response to stressful or overwhelming situations. But how do we categorize a “normal” anxious response? How do we know if our anxiety has gone on for too long without treatment? What are the warning signs that anxiety is interfering with our day-to-day lives?

Common anxiety symptoms

Anxiety manifests physically, emotionally, and through behavioural and cognitive patterns. You may recognize that you are having an anxious response to a situation when you experience a combination of these symptoms:

  • Increased/racing heart rate
  • Tightening chest/shallow breathing
  • Stomach upset
  • Headache
  • Sore muscles
  • Inability to concentrate/loss of focus
  • Worry
  • Apprehension
  • Fear
  • Panic
  • Withdrawing from family, friends, society (avoidance)
  • Fast-talking
  • Obsessive thoughts; creating “what if” situations
  • Scanning for anxiety/threats

Helpful anxiety

Anxiety can be described as a full emotional and physical response that can occur before or after a stressful situation. Although the physical and emotional experience of anxiety can be distressing, anxiety is helpful to us when it is triggered to alert us of real threats or danger. When we perceive a real threat or stressor, anxiety motivates us to take action to deal with the threat or stressor appropriately. For example, we may feel some anxiety before a job interview or an examination, but the feeling of anxiety should motivate us to prepare adequately in advance (that is, take action).

Disordered anxiety

There are many areas of the brain involved in processing the symptoms of anxiety. Disordered responses to anxiety can occur when the brain processes too many or too little of these symptoms. Sometimes the wrong parts of the brain become involved in processing the symptoms. Some manifestations of disordered anxiety patterns in the brain include:

  • an overly intense perception of anxiety – the brain’s response to a stressor does not match the real threat
  • an overworked brain due to an accumulation of past stressful memories – in response the brain generalizes fear and worry to present and future situations
  • a generalization of threatening and non-threatening situations – the brain cannot judge which is which in real life.

The likelihood of developing disordered anxiety is dependent on both biological and environmental factors. For example, research shows that anxiety is sometimes inherited from our parents (biology). As children, we may see anxious behaviours modelled by our parents, or grow up in a stressful environment which leads us to over-develop anxious responses. Exposure to a traumatic event can also be a precursor to disordered anxiety.

There are many presentations of disordered anxiety, including generalized anxiety (excessive, uncontrollable, non-specific worry), panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), phobias, social anxiety and post-traumatic stress.

Treating anxiety

There are several approaches to treating anxiety and its symptoms. The most common treatment method recommended to sufferers by experts is cognitive behavioural therapy. Transpersonal Psychotherapists aim to identify and treat the source of anxiety, and may recommend some lifestyle modifications to treat symptoms.

First and foremost, experts have noted that healing can most easily take place in a healthy body. Therefore, it is important to take care of your body through good nutrition, regular exercise and good quality sleep. Other lifestyle modifications to manage symptoms can include:

  • becoming aware of and practicing regulatory breathing
  • practicing rhythmic movement such as walking, dancing, swaying, jumping rope or stretching
  • limiting stimuli and practicing relaxation or being still
  • mindfulness training – staying connected to the present moment.

Getting to the root of anxiety

It’s helpful for sufferers to learn techniques to manage the symptoms of anxiety but ultimately sufferers will receive respite when they connect to the reason(s) they experience disordered anxiety. Therapeutic approaches that are Integrative, drawing on a variety of therapies are helpful in getting to the root. Ultimately, sufferers will need to re-train their brain to prevent disordered anxious responses from happening in the first place. Anxiety sufferers are encouraged to regain community connection, expand/build their social skills, and work with their therapist to develop plans for confronting situations that provoke an anxious response.

When to reach out for help

Anxiety management is one of the most common reason people work with therapists. As many as 1 in 4 Canadians will experience anxiety and require assistance to manage it. How can you tell when it’s time to reach out for help to manage your anxiety?

  • Your anxiety is disrupting your normal eating, sleeping, working, educational and relationship patterns
  • You can no longer exercise (due to fear of provoking an anxiety attack)
  • You have symptoms of anxiety and have a diagnosed or undiagnosed mood disorder
  • You start to notice a pattern to your anxiety and/or emotional responses
  • Your anxiety symptoms are repetitive, are escalating, and have persisted regularly for longer than 6 months
  • Your anxious responses are not proportionate to the actual stressfulness of a situation
  • You have experienced a traumatic event
  • You abuse substances
  • You have a family history of disordered anxiety
  • You feel alienated from others and struggle to understand social interaction
  • Dealing with your anxiety has become another stressor in and of itself

To find out more about therapeutic approaches to challenging anxiety with Lorena Colarusso Registered Psychotherapist, send a message through our contact page and request a free 30 minute telephone discovery session.  Lorena incorporates an Integrative approach drawing on Psychodynamic, Transpersonal, Somatic and Energetic, Attachment, Developmental and Relationship therapies.

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Crisis & Trauma Resource Institute

Risk Factors, Symptoms and Ways to Manage Anxiety



The Return Journey


By Lorena Colarusso RP

We shall not cease from exploration. And the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time”. T. S. Eliot

We never separate from our connection to Being.  Being, another word for our Spiritual or Transpersonal connections.  Our interpersonal and primary bonding and connection can be interrupted in our human development.  Our family soul and environmental experiences can create trauma wounds which affect our human psycho-physiological development. It is part of the imperfect human interpersonal journey.

We are wired for interconnection with all creation. However, the part of our brain that contains this capacity for human interpersonal connection develops after we are born.  Spiritual Bypass can be defined as an attempt to regain connection by going directly the source container of Being while missing the critical need of strengthening and developing our innate physiological capacity for connection.

Our vulnerability as human beings at birth is our complete dependency on our environment. Our environment includes our family, ancestors, soul and all contexts of the environment.   All we have at birth is our profound connection to source, to the cosmos we just left, still fully activated within us as we enter the earth. While indeed we are affected by any possible lack of nourishment in our environments, we are also wired to continue our journey back to reconnection.

Originally psychotherapy developed as a pathway to understanding and labelling our wounds with a focus on the origin.  Transpersonal and Integrative approaches draw on new understandings of the brain, spirit, body and mind.  Our consciousness is holographic which means that a corrective, healing, nourishing experience at any point on our personal timeline spreads its healing impact throughout our entire consciousness.  This supports the Family Soul Constellations approach that healing within the family systems is also holographic, affecting the entire system.

Mindful, present day relationships and experiences are are important healing opportunities as part of our Return Journey to the Authentic Self. Mindful can be described as an organic allowing of the psyche and spirit to bring forth what is ready for transformation.  The more aggressive direct regression into the past can be unsafe in some ways.  Moving between the present resources, spiritual resources and bringing those with us into past wounds is now supported with new knowledge as more effective corrective and healing experiences wich minimises the risk of retraumatization from direct regression.

The Return Journey as a dance with all the containers within our human field and spiritual fields. It as a path of embodiment, bringing the spiritual connection to our Human Self.  Through this type of integration, we can access our full potential and manifest it.  We can be present with deep intimacy and connection in relationships. We owe this public knowledge of bonding interruption and how it affects us primarily to  John Bowlby, A Secure Base (1980). Many have contributed since then bringing scientific and educational validation.  The wholeness that we seek reconnect with is psychological, interpersonal, developmental and spiritual.  Some of the clues that tell us we can use transpersonal psychotherapy support:

  • Discomfort with the relational Relational connection makes us uncomfortable, and so we disconnect and withdraw.  Discomfort with connection does not mean that we don’t want to connect, we are all wired innately for connection.  It is just uncomfortable for us because we may have learned that to connect causes pain and so we adapted by withdrawing.
  • Anxious attachment in our relational connection. When we connect, we find it difficult to disconnect.  We are anxious and attach quickly.  Anxious attachment doesn’t mean that we don’t want to be able to come back into our autonomy.  It is just fearful because we can’t trust that we won’t’ be abandoned or rejected and so we adapted by hanging on.
  • Confusion with attachment and disconnection. This is a normal adaption to a confusing environment and often results from experiences of abuse in the environment.  Our inner selves move in and out of connection and disconnection as a reaction to the incongruency and unpredictability of our environment.
  • Numbness with our emotions. Often when we cut off from painful emotions, we also cut off from joy.  Emotional disconnection can cause emotional dysregulation.  Repressed emotions can break through and become reactive in present day situations.  We can experience flooding of numbed and suppressed, even repressed emotions.
  • A sense of non-reality and dissociation. When we have experienced traumas, a normal adaption is that we dissociate as protection from overwhelming pain and emotion.  Unresolved, this can show up in relationships as being aloof, not present even arrogance.
  • Projection of Fear into Relational Connection. When we have unresolved interruptions in our interpersonal connective field and are possibly frozen in trauma responses, we may project unresolved fear onto relationships and experiences.

The Return Journey moves us back into secure attachment, authentic trust based on reality and spiritual trust based on divine connection.  Transpersonal approaches focus on mindful, present moment experiences which create a holographic transformation of consciousness.  Lorena is passionate about the integration of mind and spirit, human consciousness and spiritual connection in our Return Journey.  Lorena recently received certificates of completion in Somatic Attachment training with Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D.  She was a member of the Therapy Mastermind Circle which included 92 hours of teaching, case counsel, expert interviews for over a year. To find out about more about Lorena’s transpersonal and integrative psychotherapy approach, click here.

The Colours of Trust

Lorena Colarusso Registered Psychotherapist

What does it mean to trust?  To trust is a verb.  It is something that we do and have done to us.  Trust is a result of actions, behaviours, beliefs, feelings sustained over time.  It has many colours.  We can trust others in some dimensions and not trust in others.   The colours of trust can flow and change over time.  Trust remains the foundation of love and bonding in nourishing relationships.

In many of our relationships, primary trust and loyalties lie with others, not us.  We are not, in reality, the primary trust bond.  The important thing is to be aware of where you stand and if the type of bond you want is possible. Ask, what colour of trust is authentic in this relationship?  A primal trust imprinted in the red root chakra is a complex trust bond, both psychological and biological.  It contains our earliest imprints and memories about safety, trust and bonding. Primal Trust is one of our most powerful trust bonds in whatever way it developed.   Often, this is the root of imbalance with mistrust and blind trust.  It is the source of our essential style of bonding and capacity for trust.

The gift of trust is that it can be learned and developed. Even with a betrayal of trust, it is possible to rebuild over time.  With each relationship, we learn about our capacity for trust and when we are in a blind trust or in fear of trust.  The mystery of trust is that we can only trust others and the world as much we trust ourselves.

There are levels of trust, colours of trust.   What is important is our clarity and shedding light on our distortions, denials, projections and idealisations when making decisions about trust.  This lack of clarity can work both ways. Being aware allows us to become conscious of our patterns and wounds that distort trust. We can connect in a blind trust, denying the behaviours and feelings that inform us about a true lack of safety to trust.  Just the opposite, at times, trust is merited and proven over time, yet we can be unable to perceive this.

The Colours of Trust are rainbow colours.  There is the orange sacral chakra flow of intimate trust.  When it is balanced in its giving and receiving building, it builds interpersonal effectiveness.  There is the solar golden glow of self-trust which builds self-esteem or ego-strength empowering us with confidence and mental health.

For some, trust emanates in a heart based green flame of love, personal love and holds a balanced emission of self-love and love for others.  Any imbalance in this flow inward or outward can block our ability to trust.

A betrayal of trust can be painful, and we can slip into mistrust of ourselves, our perceptions and judgement. Through self-compassion, trust can become a map to authentic personal growth and interpersonal effectiveness in relationships.

Through the psycho-emotional and spiritual development with these beginning colours of trust, we can move into the blue, indigo and violet shades.    These shades connect to the throat chakra blue flow of authentic words and expression building integrity and congruence.  Congruence results from an alignment between or outer expression and our inner beliefs, values and selves.    This third indigo eye ability to see with insight and without judgement is the basis of clarity when making decisions about what is trustworthy and what is not.

Finally, infused into all the colours of trust is the violent and white light of a higher vision and interconnection.  Bringing compassion into our decisions and balancing it with our reality-based perceptions.

We are all unique in our capacity to flow in trust with all these colours.  For most of us in our human journey, we have natural imbalances in the flow.   What is most important is that we have awareness. This awareness develops stronger as we evolve our sense of Self.

Transpersonal Psychotherapy is a pathway of balancing and clearing blocks to trust in your personal journey or your intimate relationships with family or others.  It can build inner resources to make a decision from a compassionate and discerning trust. It can build a stronger sense of Self which develops from self-awareness and self-trust.  If you would like to explore this more feel free to check my website on the types of services that are available.  Or simply contact me at  I am passionate about the soul inspired lives that authentic trust and clarity can create.

Gratitude for Inspiration

by Lorena Colarusso RP

As I leave behind four decades of commitment to mental, emotional and spiritual health, I am most grateful for the Courage to act on and move with inspiration. I reflect on the forests, paths, creeks and rivers of my career, leading me at times in so many directions.  There was a decade where I was a Director in Non-Profit Organisations while owning a part time private wellness and psychotherapy practice.  Such parallel careers for some would seem unfathomable, and yet for me, it was seamless fueled by courage, passion and inspiration. And others who might see the continuous movement as fragmented commitments, closing of chapters and beginning new ones as a sign of instability.  In fact, it was just the opposite, the inner strength of courage to be moved and act upon inspiration.  The flexibility to manifest with creativity.

Without Courage, genius lays dormant, dreams unfulfilled and our soul potential a seed without bloom.  Without Courage, education and talent can be underutilised in the manifestation of life.  I ask myself was it inspiration and divine connections that moved through me to create such a full career.  Was it my intuitive ability to hear spirit, to align with my soul purpose?  I believe that it was more about courage.  The courage to decide and act.

To truly live with Courage, its opposite, Fear must be embraced.  As both a Coach and a Psychotherapist I value differing approaches to embracing and working with fear.  Coaches see building Courage by expanding our comfort zones.  When we move through fear, courageously our comfort zones expand building our confidence, competence and self-esteem.  Even our self-identity is formed by the limits we choose and by the contrast of our values and beliefs versus those of others.   Coaches work with embracing the Fear of the unknown, fear of failure or success and more.  A key focus is the beliefs and values that maintain the operating fields of our fears in our mind and energy.

Psychotherapists approach Fear from its roots in our instinctual and biological makeup.  Fear is the natural way that human beings have ensured their survival as a species.  Being hyper vigilant to the ancient dangers of physical survival is still embedded in our brain and nervous system. To understand that we are wired with this survival anxiety allows us to breathe into our normal humanity.  Psychotherapists help you understand the fear you need and the fear that haunts you from your past.  Therapy can help you see how past unresolved fear and trauma can disconnect you from the present and stops you from creating the future you want. Through therapy you can learn to embrace this innate fear instead of resisting it, suppressing or denying it.  Often debilitating fear and anxiety can be a product of trauma that is linked to a frozen inner part of us stuck in a particular place and time.  Psychotherapy can facilitate the healing of these parts stuck in past fears, and provide corrective experiences to bring them forth into present time.  The truth is that as we resist our fear, we also resist our inspiration and creativity.  They are intimately connected.

Courage is not the same as fearlessness.  Fearlessness can be disconnected from reality based obstacles, challenges, events and people where caution is indeed needed. We need to allow ourselves to embrace and have protective fear.   Fear can also operate from many unresolved past core issues that can continue to block our courage no matter how educated, intelligent, talented or skilled we are.

Of all the growth on my psycho-spiritual path, I am most grateful for the Courage to listen to inspiration in spite of my fears and to allow it to move me into action. I am grateful for the power of psychotherapy in transforming the haunting fears of my childhood and teaching me about instinctive and healthy fear.  I believe that each time I allowed myself to be inspired, to change direction; my relationship with the source of inspiration grew in trust.  It required risk, courage and a detachment from the opinion of others.

More and more I am interested and curious about my relationship with inspiration or rather how inspiration comes to me.   I pray for the Courage to stay open and act with decisiveness when inspiration presents itself to my mind and spirit.  I pray for divine inspiration to not leave me, to keep visiting me in future chapters of life.  I honour it with my commitment to manifest, to be worthy of it and gratitude for the passion it brings into my life.

If you would like to find out more about how to work with your fears both past and present, contact Lorena.

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